Awareness, Timing and feedback
Understand the pace, place and rituals of your collaboration. Collaboration happens in different ways over time in different groups. Collaboration includes phases of working, reflecting, implementing, discovery, enjoyment and loosening up. Ask what phase is our collaboration in now?
Work with where you are at rather than where you want it to be. Focus on identifying and naming the patterns and behaviours. There is no point pushing for difference when people are coming together or vice versa.